Marriage for Lovers & Aspirers
When
You Clash
Memory
Verse: Proverbs 16:32
(NKJV)
32 He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty,
And he who rules his spirit than he who
takes a city.
INTRODUCTION:
“Success in marriage is measured
not by the absence of conflict but by our response to conflict.” Gary and Betsy Ricucci
“The
Bible does not teach that all conflict is bad; instead, it teaches that some
differences are natural and beneficial.” -- Ken Sande
Proverbs 24:10
“A
couple who are courageous enough always to say everything will without a doubt
go through many upsets, but they will be able to build an ever more successful
marriage.”-- Paul Tournier
1. Learn
to understand your spouse’s perspective
Proverbs 18:2
“As long as a man is preoccupied primarily
with being understood by his wife, he is miserable, overcome with self-pity,
the spirit of demanding and bitter withdrawal. As soon as he becomes
preoccupied with understanding her, seeking to understand that which he had not
before understood , and with his own wrongdoing in not having understood her,
then the direction taken by events begins to change.”-- Paul Tournier
2. Remain
Calm and Watch what you say
Ephesians 4:26–27; Proverbs
29:11; Proverbs 14:16; Proverbs 14:29
Proverbs
10:19, 12:18, 13:3, 15:1, 18, 16:32, 17:27, 18:17, 25:15
3. Assume
responsibility for your role in the conflict.
Matthew 7:1–3; 5;1 John 3:21;
James 4:6; James 5:16
“Pride is at the root of almost all marital
conflict. Pride is the part of us that cannot face being wrong.”-- Gordon MacDonald
4. Ask
for and Give a Genuine Forgiveness
Ephesians 4:32; Luke 23:34;
Proverbs 25:15
5. Seek
Professional Help if Resolution is not reachable
Proverbs 15:22; Proverbs 11:14;
Proverbs 26:17; Proverbs 26:20
