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John is the under-shepherd of Agape International Church & Ministries Inc, Antioch, California and the President of Agape International Ministries Foundation, Inc (www.agapebfm.net) John has been a Preacher, Bible Teacher, Counselor and a mission-minded servant of God from 1984 till the present time. Married to Alice since 1987, he enjoys being a father to 2 sons and 1 daughter. He is available to preach, participate in evangelistic crusades and revivals, lead or participate in a Marriage Enrichment program internationally. John preaches on a weekly radio broadcast called "KNOW THE TRUTH" (Based on John 8:32)and the broadcast is aired every Sunday at Radio KDIA 1640AM. The broadcast is also accessible through the website of the radio station: www.kdia.com. You can follow him on twitter @agapebfm

Sunday, April 28, 2013

When You Clash

Marriage for Lovers & Aspirers
When You Clash
Memory Verse: Proverbs 16:32 (NKJV)
32  He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty,
     And he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.

“Success in marriage is measured not by the absence of conflict but by our response to conflict.” Gary and Betsy Ricucci

 “The Bible does not teach that all conflict is bad; instead, it teaches that some differences are natural and beneficial.” -- Ken Sande

Proverbs 24:10

 “A couple who are courageous enough always to say everything will without a doubt go through many upsets, but they will be able to build an ever more successful marriage.”-- Paul Tournier

1.      Learn to understand your spouse’s perspective
Proverbs 18:2

 “As long as a man is preoccupied primarily with being understood by his wife, he is miserable, overcome with self-pity, the spirit of demanding and bitter withdrawal. As soon as he becomes preoccupied with understanding her, seeking to understand that which he had not before understood , and with his own wrongdoing in not having understood her, then the direction taken by events begins to change.”-- Paul Tournier


2.      Remain Calm and Watch what you say
Ephesians 4:26–27; Proverbs 29:11; Proverbs 14:16; Proverbs 14:29
 Proverbs 10:19, 12:18, 13:3, 15:1, 18, 16:32, 17:27, 18:17, 25:15

3.      Assume responsibility for your role in the conflict.

Matthew 7:1–3; 5;1 John 3:21; James 4:6; James 5:16

 “Pride is at the root of almost all marital conflict. Pride is the part of us that cannot face being wrong.”-- Gordon MacDonald

4.      Ask for and Give a Genuine Forgiveness
Ephesians 4:32; Luke 23:34; Proverbs 25:15

5.      Seek Professional Help if Resolution is not reachable
Proverbs 15:22; Proverbs 11:14; Proverbs 26:17; Proverbs 26:20