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John is the under-shepherd of Agape International Church & Ministries Inc, Antioch, California and the President of Agape International Ministries Foundation, Inc (www.agapebfm.net) John has been a Preacher, Bible Teacher, Counselor and a mission-minded servant of God from 1984 till the present time. Married to Alice since 1987, he enjoys being a father to 2 sons and 1 daughter. He is available to preach, participate in evangelistic crusades and revivals, lead or participate in a Marriage Enrichment program internationally. John preaches on a weekly radio broadcast called "KNOW THE TRUTH" (Based on John 8:32)and the broadcast is aired every Sunday at Radio KDIA 1640AM. The broadcast is also accessible through the website of the radio station: www.kdia.com. You can follow him on twitter @agapebfm

Sunday, November 3, 2013

How to Resolve a Stubborn Conflict

How to Resolve a Stubborn Conflict
by John Ojewole

Memory Verse: Proverbs 16:7 (NKJV) When a man’s ways please the Lord, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.

TEXT: 1 Samuel 24:1–22
Introduction: Matthew 5:44

You can safely assume that youve created God in your own image when it turns out that God hates all the same people you do.”-- Anne Lamotte

I.             Ignore the Natural Instinct to Fight Back
1 Samuel 24:4–7; 1; 18:11, 17, 25; 19:1, 10, 11, 15, 20–21, 22; 23:8, 15; 24:2; 26:2; Proverbs 26:20; 26:17; 16:32

“The Lord forbid that I should do this to my lord the king and attack the Lord’s anointed one, for the Lord himself has chosen him.”

“You and I too must trust God enough not to take hostile actions against enemies, even when we have opportunity.” -- Lawrence O. Richards

 “So tender was his conscience that he condemned himself for even deviating so slightly from the respect due to the anointed king.” -- H. D. M. Spence-Jones

“The verb is a strong one, and means to crush down. It shows that David had to use all his authority to keep his men, vexed by Saul’s pursuit, from killing him.” -- H. D. M. Spence-Jones

II.               Avoid the Temptation to Sit Back and Wait for the Other Person to Make the First Move 1 Samuel 24:8–15; Deuteronomy 32:35; Romans 12:19–21;  Matthew 18:15

 “Can there be a more horrible object in existence than an eloquent man not speaking the truth?”—Thomas Carlyle

“The longer a conflict festers and grows, the more slanted our views of others become. What began as a small point of contention can turn into a major misconception.”-- Greg Breazeale

ILLUSTRAITON: Forgive the Guilty

III.          Commit to the Wellbeing of the person who once wronged you
1 Samuel 24:16–22; 15:28; 23:17

“Evidence of true reconciliation is continuing love and goodness. Conflict always gives us a chance to get closer to one another, grow in our own understanding of ourselves and others, and glorify our God.”-- Greg Breazeale

 “Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until he has something to forgive”-- C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity

Conclusion: Romans 5:8; 1 John 4:10